Preparing for Marriage
Most people don't prepare for marriage. I am not talking about planning the wedding day. I am talking about after the wedding day after the honeymoon. A lot of couples jump into marriage, and off they go hoping for that "Love forever after" not realizing marriage is work. But it is worth every effort.
Once married it seems to be a surprise about their spouse's habits or behavior. As well, their spouse looks at their spouse's habits and now realize they have to live these changes. Some want to bail out rather than run the race; some will hang in with their struggles about the differences. Marriages come with baggage, different habits or behavior. But for one reason or another, couples don't expect the differences. Getting married does not change our habits or behavior.
But don't give up, don't look at marriage as such hard work. It is work, but when both people are willing to work together, it is great fun. There is hope. Hope that can make the distance, hope that can refresh your marriage, hope when both are running the journey together to the end. Hope when you put God first in your marriage, and He is running along with you.
We are all different; we come into marriage with expectations. Some realistic and unrealistic. Marriage is a journey, learning about each other and loving the difference.
Run the race together with God. And if you are getting married? The wedding day is beautiful but prepare for marriage. Know there will be differences. Don't allow the differences to break your marriage. We all have habits or behavior that we can change. Marriage is worth every effort.
Hebrews 12:1 NIV
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,
This is from my morning Devotion on Marriage.
Consider this. God created everything and He said it was all good-except for one-thing. He did not like it that man was alone. But being the good God that He is, He fixed the problem, God created woman and marriage in one feel swoop. Marriage was His idea. Let that soak in. With all the negatives our world throws onto marriage, the Creator of everything says marriage is good.
Ask God to help you clear your heart and mind of the world's view of marriage and to help you embrace His perfect plan for your marriage.
Genesis 2:22 NLT
The the Lord God made woman from the rib, and He brought her to the man.
Romans 12:2 NLT
Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Lisa Ruiz is the co-founder of Covenant Marriage Ministries; She is the Community Life Pastor at Momentum Church in Crown Point, Indiana. Her passion is to see marriages thrive and encourage women to see themselves as God's perfect helpmate for their husbands. She is passionate about imparting how God sees you and not how we look at ourselves or others see us.