Difficulties in Marriages

In a conflict or in a difficult moment in our marriage, we must a right attitude towards each other and keep Jesus as our focus.  We must listen to our spouse and not listen to speak but to listen and hear the heart.  When we get overwhelmed we can loss that focus and an argument will be the result..  We must sow good seeds with our words and not be accusational.  Using "I" not the "you" word. Your marriage is to thrive and grow.  Conflicts will happen.  If the communication factor is breaking down and resulting in consent arguing then seeking wise counsel to help you to navigate through the problem is best.  Everyone wants to be heard.  But the key is slow to speak and be quick to listen.  Your spouse is not your enemy.  Most often, the spouse does not feel he or she is being heard and that is usually the root of the problem.  When you need to talk through a difficult or conflict moment, begin with praying together.  That helps to keep Jesus as the focus, it helps to cool the situation down, and it helps for each person to listen to the heart of each other and come to a solution. 
James 1:19
This you know, my beloved brethren, But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
Proverbs 15:18
A hot -tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger calms a dispute.